I think i have finally gotten to that point in my life that i can’t stand any form of loose sexual talks especially in a professional setting. mind you as you read this you might also get some what irritated.
First of all we need to understand there is a difference between sex education and loose sexual talks; I call it loose sexual talk because;
Its derogatory to the speaker and listener.
Its a weak kiss and tell act.
Its sexual harassment .
It should be a crime.
Working in a male dominated industry, I find myself surrounded by men most times. Note that I have no problem with men so this is not a “Men are Scum” blog post, but actually a post that spots out how people harass others sexually without knowing it, thats part of the glorification of the rape culture that we live in.
“Chale the girl en pussy dey be !” “When was the last time a guy went down on you ?” “I held the two boobs to my mouth and sucked them.” Oh yes !!! these are some of the things I have heard in a working environment, they even try to rope you into the conversations. At first I used to be quiet at the whole thing or try to play along to the convos but My oh My doing that will just mean I encouraged those talks … How dirty do these actually sound? Not only did it sound dirty and derogatory, I began to see sex offenders on the faces of some people as they felt comfortable spilling their dirty acts of what is meant to be private infos, or weak sex approaches.
At what point did it become normal to have sexual conversations in a working environment that has nothing to do with sex education? At what point did most people in working environments think it was ok to show their attitude of being weak horny animals that can’t control their insatiable hunger for sex ? When did sex become a common gist among every and anyone to listen or join the conversation ?
In as much as many people have made sex a normal act, its still a sacred act between two grown ups that involves the mind body and soul, which should be respected and shared in private.
Sharing these loose sexual talks is a form of sexual harassment because it has so many effects to innocent people listening or being roped into the conversation. Some might not agree with me but when a situation gives you different sort of negative feelings it is harassment. These are unwelcomed sexual talks, advances, verbal and physical misconduct which should not be tolerated.
It always starts as joke but it gets worst. I wish people could be bold enough to shun these kind of attitudes in a working environment and everywhere. The struggle is already real enough at work so why disrespect me or anyone else with your loose sexual talks.
See a shrink if you enjoy loose sexual talks. Seek help!!! This is not a jab but coming from a place of concern. Have you heard some of these talks in a work place, how did it make you feel? Share in comment section .
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