Gossip defined in Wikipedia “is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others; the act is also known as dishing or tattling”.
So Do Men Gossip ? Well my answer is yes. I actually would have answered NO if you asked me this in my early adult years, but Boy Oh Boy little did I know that most of these males out here have taken the gossip job to another level, in fact filmmakers should consider coming out with “GOSSIP BOY”, literally !
Lets call him Ogbeni (meaning Mr. in yoruba) . I met Ogbeni at work, good looking, tall and had that good body too; Wow !!! I exclaimed to myself, because he was MANLY. One thing led to another We got talking, exchanged numbers and we kicked it from there. So in the beginning I realized Ogbeni was very chatty and a dry flirt with dry jokes. He could talk for days saying nothing; I’m not a fan of loquacious men because of how I presume a man should be, which is composed but not perfect. I somehow felt his loquaciousness was maybe because of my strong character which made him a bit nervous but No, Ogbeni was really a talkative.
During the first month of what could have been the beginning of a love affair, I tried to overlook that talkative part of Ogbeni, saying to myself ,”Chris you are maturing and you do know that No man is perfect, try to look past this and discover the positive sides of this young man”( which i will never do again, MY STANDARDS ARE MY STANDARDS especially if my guts say so).
We didn’t really see much because I could be a busy bee at times, but during the times we saw, this guy would literally ask the most stupid questions which also portrayed his low self esteem too. He was someone who spoke highly of how principled he was, from the first day till the day i killed him in my head, he would keep talking about how principled he was, little did I know that was a sign showing me what makes him feel good when it comes to criticizing others and their behaviors.
Yass!!! I just dropped the bombshell!!! His gossip involved talking of others, not just mere talks about maybe their new cars, new house or new shoes but Ogbeni could spend hours criticizing every single person he came across : his colleagues, his exes, his friends, except his mum and sister but the irony was after each negative comment he adds,”Chale I’m very principled”. So just imagine listening to someone talk down about someone for 40mins and end it by saying ,”Chale I’m very principled”.
Not to be stereotypical , men and women gossip but I believe when women gossip it results to positivity than when men do.
I once read that a research conducted suggested that, “gossip gave women a way to compete in a non-physically threatening manner, while for men it helped build their self-confidence”. LMAO, No!!! Gossip made Ogbeni a happy man and exposed how much of inferiority complex he was soaked in, I know women tend to get so animated when they gossip but I had never seen anyone so amused when it comes to talking about others like this man, it made me sick , sick to the point I started to avoid him , he disgusted me automatically to the point I woke up one morning and blocked him everywhere, which after the Blocks he still gossiped about me to a mutual friend , negative as usual. Good Riddance to Bad Rubbish.